I’ve never been particularly vocal about success or one to enjoy self-promotion, and inherently I have tended to downplay my achievements at risk of being perceived as self-important. I was taught to be humble and let evidence speak for itself, hence I let my actions speak louder than my words and I let the proof be in the pudding. To this day, this virtue remains incredibly important to me, and you’ll never catch me shouting about something I cannot evidence!
I’ve always been completely turned off by arrogance and consequently I think I’ve had a fear of coming across as self-absorbed. I’m sure you will relate to knowing that person who has the upmanship attitude (*eye roll*). Who always talks a damn good talk but seldom has accolades to match; that annoying person who always has to do one better than you, been there more times, achieved more or even on the flip side, has it completely worse than you. I was always too aware of the draining effect of those people to ever want to be perceived as one! I often wonder whether downplaying our success is part of the nature of being British? As a nation we are generally modest and tend to depreciate the positives (and arguably amplify the negatives; there’s nothing quite like the good old moan about British weather)
Since embarking on a journey of self-development I’ve learned that you can be both humble and self celebratory. Being proud of yourself should not be perceived as showing of – we should lift each other and fully celebrate our achievements and accolades. On reflection I really have achieved a lot of great things in the past that I should have been so much more proud of myself about.
To cut a long story short, I recently went on a work related trip where I was interviewed by Bosnian lifestyle magazine Gracija about being female in a male dominated technology field. The intention was to publish this on their website as part of a wider project, but little did I realise they would love the interview and publish it as a double page spread in their actual magazine – which just so happens to be the largest print media in the Western Balkans! Such a big deal and somewhat pinch me moment. So you know what…
I am so damn proud of myself!
Alas it still feels somewhat alien to me to self-congratulate, self-promote or be proud of myself. But I am. Not for the article, but for the work I do & having the balls to do the interview in the first place (I was pretty nervous!) and for generally speaking out as a woman in a male dominated field. To let my female voice be heard.
Here is the article, if you happen to speak Bosnian! (I am currently waiting for the translation) 🙂
It feels good to celebrate myself and I urge you to all do the same!
Over and out.
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