Do you have phone addiction? My thoughts about a digital detox

On average we check our phones 150 times a day and either swipe, tap or click over 4000 times a day. Since the introduction of smartphones over the last decade research shows that our attention spans have reduced to being no greater than that of a goldfish. 

I for one am not suprised by these statistics. Unfortunately the times that I feel I truly have somebody’s undivided attention seem too few and far between these days. Social events can somewhat be the opposite sometimes when people are attached to their screens, frantically responding to notifications (or pops of ‘’pseudo-pleasure’’?) or anxious about curating the right picture to highlight the night. It’s a bit of a paradox when social situations become more antisocial than being on your own and following the night through updates. Instead of being spoken to you’re forced to engage with a sea of blue foreheads who are probably and ironically checking in/posting about having such a good time with you/uploading that perfect photo of your evening (because if they didn’t Instagram/Facebook it, it didn’t happen, right?). Sound common?


But is it really our fault? Companies and scientists use powerful behavioural and psychological techniques to make their apps addictive. With these techniques becoming more subtler and sophisticated. Why? Currency. Time on their platform equals revenue.

On a more sombre note, the phone addiction epidemic is damaging us at all angles. It has shown to be damaging to brain power, reducing attention span, eliminating capacity to think deep or creatively and affecting mental health. These platforms are creating an environment that predicates on vulnerable people, breeding a generation of unhappiness or eating into sleep. I cannot stress the  importance of quality sleep enough.

Low and behold even ex Facebook/Google (etc) employees who help to design and develop these addictive like qualities are pushing back and recognising the problems. I mean, the very person who designed the ‘like’ button has removed Facebook althogether now. I absolutely love Tristan Harris’ Time well spent movement. As an ex google designer that used to work on products that aimed to keep your attention he now advocates spending time well as opposed to merely wasting spending time. He is essentially aiming to establish a new ethical community that realigns technology and our best interests.


So do you feel addicted to your phone?

I can hand up say I was probably addicted (on some level) to my phone. I spent a lot of filler time scrolling and subsequently reading about the lives of others, especially people I would never come into contact with nor did I care about. There is a lot of research that demonstrates links between absentmindedly scrolling and feeling worse about yourself, and on a more signficant level between heavy social media use and mental health issues. I certaintly felt the negative effects, making undue comparisons and eroding my self worth but on reflection the issue I am most annoyed about is the time wasted that I am unable to get back. Just 25 minutes of Facebook a day is worth 2 years of your life!

Digital detox?

All those hours wasted following others’ lives yet not truly living my own? I understand I am not totally culpable because these apps designed to do this to me, but no more. About 6 months ago I felt it was time for a detox. I deleted Snapchat, I switched my notifications off and I did a cull of Facebook and Instagram *friends*.

Committing to culling my digital life has given me back time I did not realise I had. Don’t get me wrong, I found it difficult because my muscle memory would put me on autopilot to check my phone first thing in the morning, automatically open my social media apps when stuck in a queue, or feel a sense of urgency/anxiety when my phone buzzed with a notification. Remember the days when we didn’t have the two blue ticks to say your message had been read, people left voicemails and actually waited patiently for a response? Or being out to dinner without a screen in sight?

Bring those times back.


Fast forward 6 months …

I rarely check social media because I don’t need to

I switched my notifications off (this is bliss)

I don’t feel an urgency to respond to messages right away, nor am I apologetic for responding to a message *late*

I don’t check my phone first thing in the morning or late at night

And what have I noticed?

It’s been somewhat of a process for me but changing a bad habit is a slow endeavour. Totally worth it though. After my first post back in September about wanting to take a step back, I spoke about the changes I wanted to make and part of that was this digtially cutting back. What a huge difference a few months have made. I am now back to living on my own agenda and fill my time with things I want to do. I am rightly putting my brain back into proactive, productive and creative mode. I don’t feel as though I am spending time at the demands of others. am starting to notice the time gained enables me a greater capacity to think more creatively and freely, and I for one have increased my productivity and I now operate more effectively. I also enjoy real conversation much more now and prefer phone calls to texts.


Published by Lianne Marissa

I’m interested in so many things, but mainly self-help, wellbeing and travel. This is my little corner of the Internet to write about things that interest me - a bit about the things I think, the things I do, the things I eat and the places I go!

41 thoughts on “Do you have phone addiction? My thoughts about a digital detox

  1. I love this! I grew up in an era where we all came to dinner and shared the days events. No one in the family was exempt unless you were working or off to an activity for school. Life was not only simpler it was more meaningful. We felt connected.

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  2. Great job. I can often go a few days without going on Facebook. Texting is necessary with kids as well as some social media with writing, but I completely agree with Facebook. It is definitely important to live life rather than worrying about posting it all. Great post!

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    1. I totally agree – texting is a must! Tech is great and makes life easier when it aligns with our goals, such as communication/keeping in touch with people easily. But it’s the time wasted that gets me!
      Thanks for reading Joanna 🙂 x

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      1. I totally agree with you. I have to catch myself when I’m going in to read people’s blogs to not go running down rabbit holes that will only take me further and further away from my goals for the day.

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  3. I feel digital detox is essential these days. I have been on a break from Instagram and facebook since Xmas. I found I have more time to do the things I like, reading, chatting with friends, cooking.

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    1. That’s great, Jen. Reconnecting with people in real life? 🙂

      I deleted Snapchat a while back and noticed the same regarding new time! I also found that notifications took me away from the task at hand and my ability to focus on one task at a time. I love digitally detoxing! x

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      1. When I lived in San Diego, I almost lost a green light because 4 college age girls were all checking their cell phones as they slowly sauntered across the road. I am not sure if they were purposeful or just too busy checking their phones to know/care how long they were taking.

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  4. I love the before and after design of the post! Well done you. I feel inspired 🙂 Taking my baby steps. Looking forward to all the other life hacks that you will try on, Lianne!

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    1. Thanks Sara. It’s great that you’re taking baby steps, it all amounts to bigger changes in a much easier way that doesn’t feel as overwhelming. Especially when you look back after a while and think ‘wow I’ve come such a long way’ . Thanks for reading & commenting 🙂 x

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      1. No set plans, just whenever I feel I need a bit of a detox. It’s more likely that I’ll just put my phone away for an evening or afternoon every so often, and I make sure I keep it away if I’m socializing too.

        I think it’s healthy to try to set limits/general rules rather than being too restrictive.

        Do you do any? x


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