Even though I regularly incorporate a good amount of reflection in my life, December seems a natural point to take stock on perhaps a much greater scale.
2017 has been pretty pants on a personal level. I’ve been dealing with a high amount of stress coupled with an abundance of personal issues. Without dwelling on the dark times too much I would rather look at what I’ve learned going into the new year.
If I had one big take away, it would be to let things go. This year has been a personal learning curve and with an exertion of time and effort, I’ve combatted stress and eliminated the waste from my life. I’ve tackled issues head first that I’d perhaps repressed over the years and have truly learned to stop dwelling on bygones. I can honestly say that I’ve left the past where it belongs.
2017 might have been a bummer and whilst I certainly wouldn’t wish the dark times again I wouldn’t change the past or live with regret. Having an abundance of time to work on myself was exactly what I needed. I believe that I’ve come out the other side feeling incredible and stronger than ever. It’s taken me a long time to get to a point where I can truly hand on heart feel incredible again.
It’s incredible to think about my mindset change over the year. I for one am beyond excited to head into 2018 with a determination on my face, plans up my sleeve and ambition by my side.
What have I learned?
Letting go. First and foremost, I’ve learned to stop dwelling on the negative. Holding onto negative energy has repercussions far beyond the obvious annoyances. It seeps into general life and snowballs into having greater effects on the mind and body, such as tension headaches, grudges, pent-up stress, to name a few. It’s not just the extensive issues either – it’s those little everyday niggles that in hindsight should not matter. If you’re struggling with similar things a good question to ask yourself: will this really matter a year from now? Probably not. So why let it take prime time in your conscious now?
Stopping moaning. I notice a default setting for a lot of people is to just moan about anything and everything. I still find it tough spending too much time around particularly negative people because I’m aware of the potential rubbing off effects. If you’ve read my toxic people post you’ll understand that I went through a period of working out who was good for me and who was creating toxicity in my life.
Stopping being reactive. I noticed waking up feeling stressed at the number of notifications, messages and emails on my phone. In hindsight what I was doing was training my brain to be reactive and to deal with the demands of others, rather than my own. It was also feeding into my feelings of being overwhelmed which put further undue stress on my body. The way I combatted this was through decluttering digital waste (below). Now I wake up to feeling stress free.
Digital decluttering. I switched my phone onto do not disturb in the mornings and evenings and I turned my notifications off. The first and last hour of my day is my time and completely uncompromised. There’s scientific evidence that demonstrates that notifications on digital devices feed into the dopamine cycles and addiction pathways in the brain. I.e. you get that initial fix and unsatisfyingly seek more. I was surprised at the effect it was having on me. Now I reduce my brain with collateral and am more than content to engage in being more proactive and productive.
Clearing my mind. Carving out distraction free ‘me‘ time is when I am my most creative. Clarity of mind enables me to operate in my most proactive state; and taking time to really think, write or journal, enables me to reflect, plan and learn. I express gratitude, reflect and learn, which in turn boosts my happiness and self-efficacy. 2018 will include more of this and will be about getting back to being on my own personal agenda.
Seeking support. I can be pretty stubborn at times (I’m working on it!). I like to think I’m invincible and also really dislike feeling defeated, so asking for help can be somewhat uncomfortable for me. However, opening myself up to a number of people and asking for their help or patience has been one of my turning points this year. I felt overwhelmed with love and support and incredibly grateful for having such amazing people in my life.
Writing as personal therapy. I’ve developed a newfound found love for writing, be it to do lists, journaling or blogging about things I care about. The cathartic process of writing enables me to clear my mind and gain insight into where my passions lie.
I could write so much more about 2017 but these are a snippet of my learnings.
What have you learned in 2017?
Thanks for reading 🙂